Helpline: 410-547-3142
Email: holyinnocents@archbalt.org

Holy Innocents

Ministry to Families Who Have Lost Children to Miscarriage

 In this time of grief, come to the Church. In these days following your loss, let us help you bury your child and offer you comfort, hope, and peace. Know that your child is with God.

If you are miscarrying or have experienced a miscarriage and would like:

Advice about what to do next
To schedule a home visit
Information about burial and memorial options
Spiritual and emotional support

Then please contact our helpline at:

410-547-3142

or email us at:

holyinnocents@archbalt.org

FAQs

I am at home and miscarrying, what should I do?


Call your healthcare provider. If the situation seems to be a medical emergency, go to the nearest emergency room.

My child has died and I am scheduled for a surgical procedure (D&C). What are my rights?


Please contact Holy Innocents Ministry at 410-547-3142 or at holyinnocents@archbalt.org to notify us of the upcoming appointment. Inform your doctors that you wish your child’s body to be released to the custody of the Archdiocese of Baltimore who will then bury your child in an upcoming burial.

What would happen during a home visit?


If you would like ministry volunteers to come to your home to provide for burial of your child, you simply call (410) 547-3142 or email us (holyinnocents@archbalt.org). We will arrange a time that is best for you and your family. Two volunteers will come for a brief visit, answer any questions, offer resources, take custody of your child’s remains for burial, and pray with you if you would like.

Where will Holy Innocents bury our child's remains?


Holy Cross Cemetery
6020 Ritchie Highway
Baltimore, MD 21225

Holy Cross Cemetery, through the generous donation of the Sisters of Christian Charity who donated graves back to the Cemetery, has created a garden dedicated to the burial of children who are miscarried.
For more information about the Cemetery, please contact us at 410-547-3142 or at holyinnocents@archbalt.org

How common are miscarriages?

Losing a child through miscarriage, though an unspoken pain, is quite a common pain. Approximately 20-25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage.

I had a miscarriage, does it mean that I am infertile?


In some cases, miscarriage may be related to infertility. However, it is important to consult with your primary healthcare provider about your miscarriage.

Support for infertility

What prayer resources are available following a miscarriage?


Blessing of parents after miscarriage

You can also submit your prayer request to prayers@archbalt.org. A team will keep you in prayer.

How do I help a friend or family member who is miscarrying or who has miscarried?

The first thing that you can do is just be present with them and pray for them. Let them grieve at their own pace. Let them share or simply be silent. Pray with them and for them.

20 Ways to Support Love Ones Grieving the Loss of Their Baby

Loving Parents after a Miscarriage

If they would like to speak with someone who can give advice, support, provide a home visit, or for burial and memorial options, please share our helpline number: 410-547-3142 or email: holyinnocents@archbalt.org. Share this website with them.

How can I volunteer with Holy Innocents Ministry?


If you are interested in being a volunteer with this ministry, please feel free to contact us at holyinnocents@archbalt.org or at 410-547-3142. No special skills required. Volunteers will receive training for their role.

Will Catholic Hospitals bury my child after surgical procedure?


St. Joseph’s Medical Center (https://www.umms.org/sjmc) offers the mother/parents the option of leaving the fetal remains after any type of fetal loss, from a spontaneous miscarriage, D & C following fetal demise, or late term loss, to be buried at one of the hospital’s twice-yearly fetal burial services. The remains are individually identified and tagged and kept in the morgue until the next burial occurs. Ruck Funeral Home donates its services, and the Sisters of St. Francis have donated a plot in Holy Redeemer Cemetery. Parents are invited to a simple service during which each child is named. There is no cost to parents for this service. For late term losses (23 weeks or more of gestation), parents may have a funeral home take the remains and have their own burial. Parents are not given the option of burying the remains themselves. If the parents give no instructions, the fetal remains are included in the next burial service.

Bon Secours Baltimore Health System (https://bonsecours.com/baltimore) does not have labor & delivery. However, in the event of a miscarriage in the emergency room, Bon Secours joins with St. Joseph’s Medical Center for its fetal burial service.
If you feel strongly about burying your child, discuss the hospital’s policy with your physician before undergoing any procedures.

EVENTS

Vespers for Families Who Lost Children To Miscarriage
Monday, November 5, 2018
Time: 7pm
Location: St. Mary’s Seminary
5400 Roland Avenue Baltimore, MD 21210

Bishop Madden will preside at a Vespers (Evening prayer) service sponsored by Holy Innocents Ministry at St. Mary’s Seminary (5400 Roland Ave Baltimore, MD 21210). Anyone who has experienced a miscarriage is welcomed to come and pray in remembrance of her or his child. For more information about this event, contact Holy Innocents at 410-547-3142 or holyinnocents@archbalt.org.

Memorial Mass for Deceased Children and Children Lost to Miscarriage
Friday, November 2, 2018
Time: 7pm
Location: St. Louis Chapel
12500 Clarksville Pike Clarksville, MD 21029

St. Louis Parish will be hosting a Memorial Mass for Deceased Children and Children Lost to Miscarriage. Anyone who is grieving the loss of their child is welcome. 

A Mass of Remembrance and Healing for Pregnancy and Infant Loss
Sunday, November 4, 2018
Time: 10:30 am
Location: St. Joseph-on-Carrolton  Manor Catholic Church
5843 Manor Woods Rd. Frederick, MD 21703

A Mass of Remembrance and Healing for Pregnancy and Infant Loss will be held in our parish on November 4 at the 10:30 AM mass. St. Joseph’s wish to lovingly extend this invitation to mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters, grandparents, and all who grieve the death of children as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, or early infant death.  These losses can be recent or from years past.   
  
There will be flowers with tags in the main entrance of the Church.   If you would like your child to be remembered by name,  please put a tag on a flower.  We hope we can join in prayer with you on November 4. 

SUPPORT GROUPS & RESOURCES

GREATER BALTIMORE AREA

St. Joseph’s Hospital (website)**

Division of Maternal Child Health
7620 York Rd.
Towson MD, 21204
410-337-1109

Mercy Medical Center**

301 St. Paul Street
Baltimore, MD 21201
410-332-9600
(Only open to Mercy patients)

Greater Baltimore Medical Center (GBMC)

6569 North Charles Street
Towson, MD 21204
Call: Women’s Resource Center
443-849-2308
443-849-2079

Sinai Hospital

2401 W. Belvedere Avenue
Baltimore, MD 21215
Call: 410-601-5192

Franklin Square Hospital

HUGS Support Group
9000 Franklin Square Drive
Baltimore, MD 21237
443-777-7839

CARROLL COUNTY

Carroll County General Hospital

The Family Birthplace
Westminster, MD 21157
Call: 410-871-6919

Carroll Hospice

Footprints
292 Stoner Avenue
Westminster, MD 21157
Call 410-871-7231

HARFORD COUNTY

A Time to Remember

Upper Chesapeake Medical Center
Miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant death
500 Upper Chesapeake Drive
Bel Air, MD
Call: 800-515-0044

HOWARD COUNTY

Bereaved Parents: A Small Group Ministry**
Location: Our Lady of Perpetual Help (website)

4795 Ilchester Rd.
Ellicott City, MD 21043
For more details, contact the Parish Office: 410-747-4334

Rising Hope Perinatal Hospice Program (website)

Call: 410-884-4709
or contact Mary Peroutka: mperoutka@jhmi.edu

**These are associate with Catholic hospitals, parishes or other institutions. 

ONLINE SUPPORT

Caleb Ministries

calebministries.org

Hannah’s Prayer Ministry

hannah.org

M.E.N.D. Mommies Enduring Neonatal Death

mend.org

Purposeful Gift

purposefulgift.com

Perinatal Hospice

perinatalhospice.org

All That Love Can Do

allthatlovecando.blogspot.com

Naomi’s Circle

naomiscircle.org

Sufficient Grace Ministries

sufficientgraceministries.com

The Haven Network

thehavennetwork.org

Be Not Afraid 

benotafraid.net

Heaven’s Gain

heavensgain.com

Note: The resources offered are not all from Catholic ministries.