Something New: Weekend Mass at St. Andrew by the Bay includes marriage

Last autumn, a new Order of Celebrating Matrimony was shared by the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops and the Federation of Diocesan Liturgical Associations.

Informational sessions around the nation included an emphasis on the wedding procession following the custom of other liturgical celebrations – i.e., behind the cross – and a reminder that, like other sacraments, a couple can be married during a regularly-scheduled weekend Mass.

“It’s not common, at least not in this part of the country,” said Monsignor Richard Hilgartner, pastor of St. Joseph in Cockeysville, a workshop leader, “but if a couple is rooted in the parish community and they’re not interested in some of the trappings, maybe (it’s) a second marriage, it’s an option.”

Lynn Thomas and Brian Yeatman exchange wedding vows during weekend Mass at St. Andrew by the Bay in Annapolis Aug. 19. Thomas’ daughter, Chelsea Smith, and Yeatman’s brother, Richard Yeatman Jr., were witnesses. Pastor Father Jeffrey S. Dauses celebrated the Mass, and invited parishioner, Kaitlyn Pioro, to be the impromptu ring bearer.
(Kevin J. Parks/CR Staff)

That describes Lynn Thomas and Brian Yeatman, who were married by Father Jeffrey Dauses during 5 p.m. Mass Aug. 19 at St. Andrew by the Bay in Annapolis.

Yeatman is 63, his bride 60. Their witnesses were his brother, Richard, and her 30-year-old daughter, Chelsea.

Thomas’s previous marriage was annulled earlier this year. In April 2013, Father Dauses offered a funeral Mass for Yeatman’s then-wife of nearly 30 years, Debbie Jean.

In addition to the customary Saturday afternoon faithful, guests included three dozen family and friends. Yeatman has two adult children, Thomas four, plus a grandchild. Their marriage came three years and 10 days after their first date, made possible by Match.com.

“His profile was two sentences,” Thomas said. “Mine was considerably longer, and included ‘On Sunday, you will find me at Mass.’”

Reading that, Yeatman told himself, “That’s the one.”

He proposed on Easter 2016. Over an ensuing lunch with Father Dauses at the Blue Rooster in Cape St. Claire, he explained that one element in their plans for a church wedding was missing. After 29 years of marriage, she had divorced in 2009, but had not pursued annulment.

With the help of Deacon David Tengwall, that was completed in February.

“If it hadn’t been as easy it was, it still wouldn’t have kept us from getting it annulled,” Thomas said of a process simplified during the Year of Mercy. “I wasn’t going to give up Communion.”

Parishioners of St. Andrew by the Bay in Annapolis pray for Lynn Thomas and Brian Yeatman during their Aug. 19 wedding. (Kevin J. Parks/CR Staff)

A Department of Defense employee, she had been extremely active at St. Mark Parish in Catonsville, where she was a Scout leader and taught religious education. An analyst for Xerox, Yeatman’s affection for St. Andrew by the Bay grew during his first wife’s decline with cancer.

“I was going to work one day, and Father Jeff came to the house and talked to her,” he said. “He put her at ease, and calmed her. After that, she was ready go. I have great respect for him.”

On the day before the 20th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Thomas and Yeatman did not request special readings. The Gospel, Matthew 15:21-28, included a passage about a daughter “tormented by a demon.” In his homily, Father Dauses joked, “Why now?”

The pastor recruited 4-year-old Kaitlyn Pioro, no relation to the couple, to serve as a ring bearer during the wedding ceremony itself.

While wallets and purses opened during the offertory collection, Yeatman remained as still as ever, as he contributes through Faith Direct.

“When I offered them this option, Lynn and Brian loved it,” Father Dauses said earlier. “They wanted to keep it simple. Their experience is our faith community.”

Monsignor Hilgartner, previously the executive director of the USCCB Secretariat for Divine Worship, emphasized that connection.

“At a regular parish Mass, it isn’t going to be all about the bride and groom, but marriage isn’t just about the couple,” he said, drawing a parallel to baptism, first Communion and confirmation. “The sacraments are not private events. They’re acts of public worship of God for the church.”

 

Email Paul McMullen at pmcmullen@CatholicReview.org 

 

Kevin Parks contributed to this article.

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Paul McMullen

Paul McMullen

Paul McMullen has served as the managing editor of the Catholic Review since 2008.

The author of two books, Paul has been involved in local media since age 12, when he was delivering The News American to 80 homes in his neighborhood. From daily newspapers in Annapolis and Baltimore to The Review, his favorite writing assignments have included the Summer Olympics in Australia and Greece, and the post-earthquake response in Haiti.