You are not alone. In this time of grief, come to the Church. Know that others are praying for you as you struggle with your loss, fear, confusion, and sadness. Know that your child is with God.
If you are a friend or family member of someone who has lost a child, here are 20 ways to support loved ones who have lost a baby and Loving Parents After Miscarriage.
The Church recognizes the value of each and every human person. There is a set of prayers, including a blessing for the parents and a rite of commendation for the infant, for the passing of the unborn. This memorial service can be done in a church or at a graveside. Copies of the Order for Naming & Commendation of an Infant Who Died Before Birth and Remembrance of Commendation can be downloaded here or requested from the Respect Life Office at firstname.lastname@example.org or (410) 547-5537.
You may want to name your child.
If you have your child's remains, you may want to bury him or her. If you don't, you may still want to have a memorial service. For more details on this difficult topic, click here.
Know that you are not alone. Our prayers are with you.
Elizabeth Ministry offers books for guidance and healing in this difficult time.
After Miscarriage: A Catholic Woman's Companion to Healing by Karen Edmisten is reviewed by the For your Marriage site here.
Hannah's Prayer Ministries provides support for pregnancy and other losses.
Paraclete Press has produced a new video, Footprints on our Hearts: How to Cope After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Newborn Death. A copy can be borrowed from the Respect Life Office (email@example.com).
Edwin Cardinal O'Brien's homily from the Mass for those who have lost children can be read here.
Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep is an organization that offers the free gift of professional photography to parents suffering the loss of a baby.
My Lord, the baby is dead!
Why, my Lord—dare I ask why? It will not hear the whisper of the wind or see the beauty of its parents’ face—it will not see the beauty of Your creation or the flame of a sunrise. Why, my Lord?
“Why, My child—do you ask ‘why’? Well, I will tell you why.
You see, the child lives. Instead of the wind he hears the sound of angels singing before My throne. Instead of the beauty that passes he sees everlasting Beauty—he sees My face. He was created and lived a short time so the image of his parents imprinted on his face may stand before Me as their personal intercessor. He knows secrets of heaven unknown to men on earth. He laughs with a special joy that only the innocent possess. My ways are not the ways of man. I create for My Kingdom and each creature fills a place in that Kingdom that could not be filled by another. He was created for My joy and his parents’ merits. He has never seen pain or sin. He has never felt hunger or pain. I breathed a soul into a seed, made it grow and called it forth.”
I am humbled before you, my Lord, for questioning Your wisdom, goodness, and love. I speak as a fool—forgive me. I acknowledge Your sovereign rights over life and death. I thank You for the life that began for so short a time to enjoy so long an Eternity.